Carol Anne (Paine) McNeil passed away peacefully on April 22nd at the Pleasant Bay Nursing and Rehabilitation Center, Brewster, MA from complications of MS and Alzheimer’s disease. Carol was born in Boston on July 16th, 1940.
She is survived by her beloved husband of 35 years, Joe, as well as her two daughters, Debra (Debbie) Powers & fiancé James Akers, Elizabeth, CO, Lisa Havens of West Harwich, MA and step daughter Kathleen McNeil~Doughty (Robert), Bowling Green, KY and her companion cat “Yeti”. She is also survived by her Grandsons Cody Powers, Louisville, CO, Justin Powers, Elizabeth CO and her Step-grandson Brandon Carter, Bowling Green, KY.
Carol was an only child predeceased by her parents Ronald Paine and Lillian (Brown) Paine of Marshfield, MA. Carol was a graduate of Worcester (MA) North High School, Class of 1958 and the Worcester Memorial Hospital School of Nursing Class of 1961 as a Registered Nurse.
She worked at Worcester City Hospital for several years in various parts of the hospital but her real love was working in the Emergency Room providing care for the truly sick and injured.
After a separation and divorce from her first husband Alan, Carol and her daughters moved to Harwich around 1974 to begin a new life. Carol was a licensed real estate broker for a period of time but her true love was nursing. She was employed at Cape Cod Hospital for many years. In 1984 she was married to Joseph McNeil. In 1982 Carol was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis but that did not stop her from doing what she loved to do. She retired from the CCH in 1990 when her MS condition made it too hard to continue her duties as a Charge Nurse in the Emergency Room. She continued making her mark in Emergency Medicine as an instructor and clinical coordinator for Emergency Medical Teaching School, training new Paramedics on Cape Cod and beyond. Her many students went on to save lives every day.
Carol was a devoted mother to her daughters and a loyal confidant for her husband who was a Captain/paramedic for Harwich Fire. She accompanied him many times as he represented the Association of Public-safety Communications Officials International. Carol served as the “Family Program” Chairperson at the APCO International Conference held in Boston in 1990 and 2000.
Carol was appointed Chairperson of the Harwich Disability Rights Committee in 1997 and succeeded in gaining the communities compliance with the Americans with Disabilities Act for equal access.
In retirement Joe and Carol toured the United States in their motor home, visiting friends and family. They succeeded in spending time in every state in the “lower 48” before coming home. During their life together Joe and Carol vacationed for many years at their beloved “second home” The Couples Resort, in Ocho Rios, Jamaica.
Carol's strength, kindness and generosity will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved her.
The family would like to thank all of the staff at the Pleasant Bay Nursing Center, especially her sister nurses, for their care and comfort in her final days. Additionally, our thanks to her VNA nurse Malisa Keefe and the VNA nurses who took such good care of her at home.
Due to the current pandemic services will be private. A “Celebration of her life” will be conducted in September. Gifts in her memory may be made to the Visiting Nurses Association of Cape Cod, 255 Independence Drive, Hyannis, MA 02601.