Donald Gifford Mayhew of Vineyard Haven MA died Tuesday at Cape Cod Hospital aged 87. He was born September 1931 at the new Martha’s Vineyard Hospital where his mother was the first director. His father was then chief engineer on the steamship Martha’s Vineyard. He was the son of Everett Lindley Mayhew and Beatrice Livingstone Gifford of West Tisbury. Both parents had several Mayhew ancestors, as well as Tilton, Luce, and Norton. Donald’s wife delighted in the fact that he was descended from both Daggett brothers, not only the one who married the Governor’s daughter but also his brother who began what Islanders called the Bow & Arrow Daggetts.
Donald had a keen memory. He could recite his most direct Mayhew lineage as was the family tradition although his ancestry went back to Thomas Mayhew Sr in thirty-two different lines. Curiosity led him to understanding and seeking both sides of an issue. He had a keen interest in everything and often noticed and remembered details others missed. He had a wicked sense of humor, writing droll poetry.
He looked at the world as a giant puzzle, which is a thread that ran through his life, from the early pursuit of an engineering degree, fixing his own bike, working out how to retire early. His stories of his working life with FAA often include details of some puzzle he solved using out-of-the-box thinking. His poetry was a form of puzzle, requiring careful construction. Even his philosophy degree addressed a way of figuring out how the world works. He enjoyed helping others with their computers less for the altruism and more for the challenge of a fresh puzzle.
His ethics made him seek the greater good in a situation. His integrity sometimes caused trouble. On a brief trip to Quebec with his young family, he and his wife needed and bought cheap watches. At the border the customs officers could not believe he declared these. They carefully searched the entire car, including the peanut butter and other kid’s snacks.
Donald’s family moved off Island when he was small; he spent most of his life planning to come back. He loved bicycling and would cycle from their home in Providence to visit his grandparents in West Tisbury. He graduated from Mount Hermon School and Brown University, with some graduate school at Brown in philosophy. He was Navy ROTC at Brown and served in the US Army as occupation troops in Austria in the 1950s. He briefly taught high school math in New Jersey and ran a bowling alley in Warwick RI.
After he married Catherine Merwin (Kay), they moved to Washington DC where he began work as a systems analyst with the Federal Aviation Administration and became fascinated with computers (in those days one would fill an entire room). His family lived in Bowie MD for many years. After his early retirement in 1983, his family gift was his first personal computer. He and his wife returned to the Island he loved where he was pleased to find members from the Washington Ethical Society involved with the Unitarian Universalist Society here. He served as officer and board member of the Dukes County Historical Society, now MV Museum, and diligently worked many hours for the MV NAACP. He was on the original Land Bank committee and also served on the Tisbury Board of Health.
He loved his family, understanding and enjoying them more than they realized. Besides his wife he leaves a daughter Laurel Mayhew and son-in-law Kevin Olson of Colorado and a son Craig Mayhew and wife Laura of Westborough MA. Donald adored his two lovely granddaughters Rory and Fiona. He is also survived by his brother Allen Mayhew and wife Doris of New Jersey and their children, as well as four Clark nephews and a niece, children of the late Spencer and Marguerite Clark. Donald especially treasured his cousins on the Island who have been so good to him, Susie Boass, Judy Bryant, and Nancy Cabot.
A memorial service will be held at the First Congregational Church in West Tisbury on Saturday, February 9 at 1:30 PM
. In lieu of flowers please make a gift in his memory to Mount Hermon School, 1 Lamplighter Way, Gill, MA 01354. Or to MV NAACP, P.O. Box 1513, Oak Bluffs, MA 02557.