James (Jim) Murphy, 73, gentle and loving husband, father, Grampy, brother and friend died November 30, 2018 in Falmouth, MA. Known affectionately as Murph and Jimmy, Jim’s love for the ocean was only surpassed by his love for family and friends. His favorite toast was, “To friends. To family. To friends who are family.”
A lifelong New Silver Beach summer resident, Jim met his wife Jane (Donahue) Murphy at the beach in 1966 and they were married at St. Patrick’s Church in Falmouth. They raised their three children in Longmeadow, MA, spending all their summers at New Silver and moving there permanently in retirement.
The happiness that defined their 50-year marriage was best measured by their unending laughter. Jim’s embrace of fun was infectious and his big personality invited everyone in to the party where he and his friends were known to entertain the crowd with “Mack the Knife.” His other unique skills included putting lobsters to sleep, exceptional popsicle eating, enjoying roller coasters with his kids and grandkids, capturing bats, mad boat docking capability, and inventing Murph McMuffins.
Jim was a star athlete at Archbishop Williams High School (’63 Athletic Hall of Fame) and at Syracuse University. His work ethic and dedication led to numerous awards in collegiate football. Jim was honored to have played in the Blue-Grey Bowl, Senior Bowl, and the Gator Bowl while at Syracuse, and he cherished the lifelong friendships he made with his teammates. He later played for the Hartford Knights while working multiple jobs to support his young family.
Jim’s incredible athleticism and love for both sport and sportsmanship were passed on to the next generation through his three children, five grandchildren, and the countless kids he coached. He taught P.E. in Enfield, CT and Springfield, MA and between 1980 and 2016 coached – as his sons and daughter put it – “everything but lacrosse”: track, wrestling, football, basketball (girls and boys), and baseball. He most loved coaching his children’s teams and, even as his health declined, helped coach one of his granddaughter’s basketball teams to an undefeated season.
As a coach, Jim fostered mutual respect between players and coaches, leading with encouragement, empathy and heart. He inspired so many of his children’s friends to both play and coach.
Jim was also very proud to be a builder and contractor. He built homes in western MA and on Cape Cod, finding great joy in the creative, collaborative, outdoor process.
Jim, Jimmy, Murph, Dad, Grampy… He loved and was—is—loved. Can there be anything more important in life? He is pre-deceased by his parents Edward and Agnes Murphy of Quincy and Falmouth and dear brother Edward Murphy of Barnstable. He is survived by his wife Jane of North Falmouth; son Michael Murphy and his wife Maureen of Wilmington, DE; son Dennis Murphy and his wife Beth of North Falmouth, MA; daughter Brianna Murphy of Boston; five precious grandchildren – Trip, Wilson, Maggie, Quinn and Isabelle; brother Kevin Murphy and his wife Karen of North Falmouth; sister Maryanne Murphy of Quincy and North Falmouth; brother Joe Murphy and his wife Kathy of Wethersfield, CT and Falmouth; and an extraordinary number of wonderful nieces, nephews, and dear friends… friends who are family.
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Visiting hours will be from 4:00 – 7:00 PM on Tuesday, December 4th in the Chapman, Cole & Gleason Funeral Home, 584 West Falmouth Hwy. (Route 28A) WEST FALMOUTH. Funeral Mass will be celebrated at 10:00 AM on Wednesday, December 5th in the St. Elizabeth Seton Church, 481 Quaker Road, North Falmouth MA. Burial will be private.