Pocasset, Ma - Neal Bernard Hayes passed away peacefully at the age of 89 at Brigham and Women’s Hospital surrounded by his family on June 25, 2018. Born on July 15, 1928 in Medford, MA, Neal was predeceased by his sister, Dorothy Bowser (Hayes), and his parents Cornelius and Lillian (O’Connor). Neal was raised in Watertown, MA and attended Watertown High School and Boston College before joining the Navy in 1946, where he served as a Corpsman at the end of World War II. After his honorable discharge from Chelsea Naval Hospital in 1948, Neal worked at Upper Falls Beverage in Newton, Highlands owned by Col Edward A. Hickey. It was there where Neal met his wife, Helen Hickey.
Neal and Helen were wed on August 31, 1954 and spent the winters in Watertown and summers on Scraggy Neck in Cape Cod, MA. Col Hickey had built a welcoming family home on Scraggy Neck where the family’s cousins; the Hayes, Duggan, Shanahan, and Hickey, families, gathered every summer enjoying clam bakes, imbibing at the Blue Parrot, and hosting cook outs on the brick kiln next to the swimming pool in the back yard.
The family lived in Lexington, MA until 1962 when they moved to Watertown, purchasing a two-family home right down the street from where Neal grew up. In 1972, they moved to Pocasset, MA; raising six children between the three locations.
Neal worked in gift sales for Alfred E. Knobler, selling various goods to gift shops throughout New England. His most popular product was Pilgrim Glass, hand blown in West Virginia, including a unique cranberry line, hand blown with gold inlay— the quintessential Cape Cod style. Neal was always known as the nice guy with a great sense of humor, and truly cared about his customers.
Neal had many hobbies. He built a hunting camp with his friends in Ellsworth, NH deemed ‘The Stumble Inn,’ which he developed into a year-round establishment still maintained to this day. Neal was the only hunter who hunted without bullets and loved to walk around in the woods with the guys. Great guy, terrible hunter!!
He and Helen were avid golfers during her time on this earth and were members of Pocasset Golf Club for over 60 years. Helen passed away in 2002, but she was always Neal’s eternal partner in golf and in life. His children believe that he has been waiting for the day to join her in heaven and is happily playing nine holes with her now in Heaven.
Additionally, Neal was a member of the Elks Club for many years and loved attending the Meat Raffle with his daughters on Thursday nights — eventually they had to take a break after winning too many weeks in a row. He was an avid reader, devouring books and newspapers every day. He had lists of his favorite authors and books, crossing each off his list as he read them. James Patterson, David Baldacci, Dean Koontz, Louis Lamour, and Clive Cussler, among many others, were his favorite authors.
Neal was famous for loving his Manhattans. He was well known in the area, and many local restaurants made his drinks with a special twist. The Courtyard and Sagamore Inn were his special places with two special bartenders. — only VO for Mr. Hayes!
Neal leaves behind his family of 5 children, Neal Jr (63), Edward (62), Patricia (60), Linda (56), and Margaret (54). His third son, Michael preceded Neal in 2002 at the age of 42. Additionally, Neal leaves behind 10 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren.
A visitation will be held on Monday, July 9, from 9:00 -11:00 AM at Chapman, Cole, and Gleason, 584 W. Falmouth Hwy (Route 28A), West Falmouth, MA 02574. A Mass will follow at 12:00 PM St. John the Evangelist Church, 841 Shore Rd, Pocasset, MA. Military burial will follow the Massachusetts National Cemetery, Bourne.